Nov 13, 2009 9:09 PM
Any relapsed ALL young adults getting BMT? My (& my brother's) story... new poster
Hi all...
I'm trying to find some support in dealing with my brother's relapse. I'm new to posting, and found out about his relapse 2 and a half weeks ago, but waited to post as I wanted to make sure it was okay with him for me to write about him on here.
This is all really hard right now, and I find myself online a lot as I don't know what to do. I live and work outside of the US, and had actually just started at this job about a week before finding out about my brother's pre-B cell ALL diagnosis back in August 2007. He was 19 at the time, just about to turn 20. He had been having back pain all summer, getting worse, in his ribs too, etc, and nobody could figure it out. Just before I left the states for my job abroad, he got on a scale and decided the scale was off as it said he had lost something like 10 or 15 pounds. He'd also been having night sweats. Somehow, we didn't put all this together as a really bad sign, we had been focused on getting him to back doctors to figure out the back pain, and I was also focused on packing to leave the country. He didn't have recurring infections or bruising or those other typical ALL symptoms. Anyway, his primary care doc finally checked him into the hospital on August 1, and was diagnosed and started treatment on August 3. I took unpaid leave from my job, and was back in the states from mid-August to mid-November, when he seemed to be doing well enough for me to return to my job abroad. My brother was treated on a pediatric protocol, but not at a pediatric hospital (he didn't want to go to the teaching hospital and be poked and prodded by residents all the time). He had 2 years of chemo total, and was in remission after 3 weeks from the start, and never had major problems through the two years. I don't think they did MRD (minimal residual disease) testing, though, which now makes me mad, as I know it seems useful in determining risk of relapse. His major problem was back issues, with the leukemia causing a collapse of several vertebrae, for which he had kyphoplasty surgeries (very rare in a 20 year old).
So, now to the current day. I was back in the states for 10 days on my summer holiday in early September this year, and my brother called me on the phone (he was now back at college 2 hours away) and told me his back was hurting, and his hip, and it felt the same as two years ago. It totally freaked me out, and I was in panic mode for days. Finally, the doc (his new oncologist, 2 hours away at school) insisted his blood counts were staying the same, and that there were other explanations for the pain. We all relaxed (but just a little). Well, it kept bothering him on and off, nobody wanted to give him a biopsy as his blood counts weren't changing, and finally at the end of October he did get a biopsy and it was positive - the leukemia had relapsed. My family and I (and my brother of course) are devastated, and I'm mad as hell too. His original oncologist kind of acted like it was all going to be fine before, giving him high numbers for chance of the leukemia being gone, but I feel in my mind (and have always felt) like that was overly optimistic - just due to his age at diagnosis, I feel like he should have been treated as a higher-risk patient. So, now, he's quit school again after only half a semester back, he's back with my parents, and at the teaching hospital where they can actually do bone marrow transplants, with a new hem/onc who can do them. Now trying to get into remission, and on the COG AALL01P2 protocol for relapsed ALL. It has 3 rounds of 35 days of chemo, which if it's on schedule would have that finishing in mid February. And a bone marrow/ stem cell transplant after that. I'm only a 3/6 match, and we don't have any other siblings, so we'll be looking for an unrelated donor. I think his HLA type might be a little weird, so I'm not sure how long it's going to take to try to find a donor, and I guess there are always other options like cord blood, but we'd probably have to take him to a different transplant center if he needed a more than 9/10 mismatch or a cord blood transplant, as they don't really do those where he is.
So, this is all ridiculously stressful, and so unfair to him, and if I were in the states I'd be going to Gilda's club for support, but where I am I have none. So I hope to get some from these boards. I've been reading a lot, and you guys really help each other out. Oh, and my other stress is that my partner of 9 years and I got married last Christmas (thank god my brother was okay and there), but my husband isn't American. So, we were planning on applying for his greencard now, and heading back to the states in a year, but that's all thrown up in the air since if I'm not here, we can't apply through the US embassy here. But if we both quit our jobs here now, and head back to the states, we could be losing out on end-of-contract bonuses which we were counting on to be savings to get us started in the US next year, and if he comes to the states now, he won't be able to work and we'll have a long process to apply for his greencard there. But I also am so afraid of going back myself in 2 months or so to help support my brother and family (they will definitely need support during the transplant process) without having my husband there, and potentially being away from my husband for 8 months or so...
Anyway, i assume nobody has experience with this last problem of mine, but I just wanted to tell my story and introduce myself, and I'm sure I'll be posting more as I have more questions about things for people who have been through this experience.
sara