SUBJECT: A CONSIDERATE HUSBAND
It is important for men to remember that as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are oversensitive, and there is nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.
My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Peggy.
When I retired a few years ago, I noticed she was beginning to show her age.
I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour before she starts dinner. I do not yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table.
I generally have lunch at the Men's Grill at the club, so eating out is not reasonable. I am ready for a home-cooked meal when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it is not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they will not clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so just smile and offer encourgement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she will not have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then would not hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she sems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I am a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy. I am not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible. Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older.
However, guys, even if you use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife, because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. Afterall, we are put on this earth to help each other.
Signed,
Jim
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